Let's talk about sex...

It is ironic that one of the most natural of human behaviors is also one of the least communicated about between couples. Perhaps you grew up in a household where sex was not openly discussed.  Or maybe your very normal sexual feelings and desires were considered a "sin" by the faith in which you were raised. 

My office provides you with a safe, comfortable space to discuss your sexual life, answer your questions, all within the framework of a sex-positive atmosphere.  I don't believe in pathologizing someone's sexual behaviors--no matter how far they may be from what is considered the "mainstream".  My philosophy is simple:  if it's consensual, and it's not hurting you or your partner(s), your sexuality and all that it entails (your fantasies, experimentation, whatever turns you on) will be supported, nurtured, and listened to without judgment.

The 4 Types of Sexual Problems

Organic--This refers to anything medical that may be causing a problem and will always be considered--and ruled out--first.  An example is the way in which some medications can affect sexual performance or even desire.  A referral to your medical doctor would be recommended in such cases.

Education--Sometimes, all it takes to solve a sexual problem is a little knowledge!   Perhaps you're a man who's just begun a sexual relationship with a woman, and you're concerned that she's not having orgasms during intercourse.  In that case, I'd ask if you knew that 70-80% of women cannot achieve orgasm strictly through vaginal intercourse; for these and most women, clitoral stimulation is needed.

Performance--Let me normalize this for you immediately:  at some point in their sexual life, most people experience a performance issue.  Sometimes, better communication between partners makes it better. Sometimes it's a deeper issue.  There are many effective ways to treat these concerns.  We will get to the root of it.

Desire--Another very common sexual problem that nearly all couples deal with in their relationship.  Assuming that a medical cause has been ruled out, desire problems are seen through a relational lens, and are not pathologized.   

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