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Let's talk about sex.
Are you in a sexless relationship?
Has it been months, even years since you were sexual with your partner? In a million years, you never thought you'd end up in that kind of relationship, right? And now with resentment built up on both sides, it's hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel. Or perhaps the sex you're having is unsatisfying, or hampered by something specific. Maybe you're someone with a penis and it's not cooperating when you want it to. One or both of you might be feeling unwanted. Or remember when oral sex used to be part of your encounters, and now it's a thing of the distant past? There is hope to turn any or all of this around, or at least to help you manage the changes and plan a different, but equally exciting future.
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My office provides you with a safe, comfortable space to discuss your sexual life, answer your questions, all within the framework of a sex-positive atmosphere. I don't believe in pathologizing someone's sexual behaviors--no matter how far they may be from what is considered the "mainstream". My philosophy is simple: if it's consensual, and it's not hurting you or your partner(s), your sexuality and all that it entails (your fantasies, experimentation, whatever turns you on) will be supported, nurtured, and listened to without judgment.
Desire discrepancies
A common occurence in long-term relationships. We'll talk about responsive desire and the pursuit of pleasure as primary methods of improving your sexual relationship.
Fantasies
If you've ever wanted to share fantasies with your partner but haven't comfortable to do so, we'll talk about what might be interfering and how to foster safe conversations.
Erectile dysfunction
After any organic or medical cause is ruled out, we'll look at what's getting in the way and put you on a path towards more satisfying sexual experiences.
Kink
Is the sex too "vanilla?" Let's discuss ways to spice up your encounters, always with an eye towards safety, respect, and consent. You'll discover there are more than fifty shades.
Pelvic pain
​Sex should never be painful...period. So first we'll rule out organic causes (through referrals to doctors.) Then we can look at the psychological barriers preventing you from a pain-free experience.
Survivors of sexual abuse
You will dictate the pace of your healing. I will follow your lead, creating a protective and nurturing space for you to work through this painful part of your past.
LGBTQ-friendly
Straight, gay, bisexual--all I care about is a consensual, pleasure-filled, pain-free experience for you. Who you have that with makes no difference, and will be celebrated.
Premature Ejaculation
Help is available for this all-too-common issue. Exercises will be assigned, but we can also discuss medication options that a doctor can provide.
Fetishes
The variety of things that turn people on is immense. Problems may arise when sexual satisfaction depends on a particular fetish to the exclusion of all other activities, especially when a partner is involved.
STI's
If one of the primary goals of sex is pleasure, then it's important to account for anything that could impede it: safety is paramount, and psychoeducation and resources can be provided to keep your activity safe and healthy.
Polyamory/Open Relationships
Consensual non-monogamy is an option for some couples, but they require careful consideration and an establishment of firm rules and boundaries.
Porn use
In the last two decades, porn has become readily accessible. Problems may arise between partners when the use of it is deemed "excessive" by one or both of you, or if it compromises a mutually satisfying sex life. Let's talk.